ebay...
fan+friend is relatively cheap as well.

Have you heard of these sites?
blueperiod.suddenlaunch.com
It is a goth lolita message site, but with tons of info, has some links to sites and also patterns. It is a nice jumping point.

www.avantgauche.co.uk/
Is another good one. It carries all sorts of links.

Surfing from these two places should get you to a lot of patterns. I'm on my school's computer so I don't have all the ones on my laptop. I will hopefully have the internet installed this week and will post more then. A few of the sites that I have marked are pattern sites.

If you want to get the gothic and lolita bibles and have the actual patterns go to www.jlist.com
They are in Cali and you can also get a subscription for the magazine and a few other pattern magazines that are from Japan. A few of them are specifically cosplay and look really great!

Happy hunting and I hope this helped!
Amanda

Thanks guys!

if you really want loli patterns, the best can be found by thinking outside the box. think square dance. yes, think red-neck eldery women in huge frilly skirts, all you do is make the dresses in fabrics that are pretty rather than hideous. paterns for pinafores and everything. this will give you a very BTSSB or metamorphose look, i don't know if that's the look you want, but BTSSB is as loli as they come. unless you live in whitetrashville (oklahoma) like me, you'll probably have to order them online though.